Yup. Guilty as charged. I seem to have a knack for hanging onto fear—and worse, often fear that doesn’t look like fear—and using it to prevent myself from moving something in my life forward. That bit that says, “You’re not allowed to do ‘x’ because…”? The ending is often different: “you need to feel bad about ‘y’” or “‘y’ is more important because it’s what people expect of you” or “you don’t deserve to do ‘x’” etc., but the result is the same. You can’t make good things happen from a place of fear. It’s immobilizing.